“No it’s okay!! I’ll be fine.”

I find myself saying these words so often. Maybe you do the same.

I say them whenever someone offers to help me:

• Offering to drive me home

• Offering to help me with my projects

• Offering to help me carry things

At the root of it, there’s a fear:

I’m scared I’ll be a burden to someone if they go out of their way to help me.

But it wasn’t until I had a conversation with a friend that completely changed my mind…

Today’s sponsor is MYSELF 🫶 

Replace doomscrolling with creating an ADHD-friendly productivity system

It takes 15 minutes a day and you’ll go from:

• Feeling overwhelmed with all your to-dos

• Constantly re-planning your projects without making meaningful progress

• Guilty for not doing “enough”

• Wondering where all your time goes - because you keep getting distracted

• Being unable to stay consistent with your goals

To knowing exactly where your time goes - and how to spend it more intentionally. 

Just take it from one of my students: “6 months later and I’m staying consistent with my reflections. I use the 5 whys exercise every time I find myself overthinking, and my priorities are super clear.” 🫶

Allowing people to help you

“Once I was fighting over the bill with someone,” my friend told me one day over a phone call.

“They told me ‘why are you depriving me of this? Let me treat you!’ - and that was when I realized that my fear of being a burden actually detracted from our relationship.”

When my friend said that, I realized I made the same mistake.

I would always refuse help from others, assuming I was a burden to them.

But I never thought that they would actually want to help me.

Think about it - if your friend needed help moving, wouldn’t it be fun to help them pack stuff into boxes? You’d be glad to help them, right?

I know I would love to help my friends move.

But I would never ask them to help me move.

Isn’t that denying them the opportunity for connection? For building a deeper friendship?

Don’t feel ashamed to ask

I think it’s courageous to ask for help.

So if you feel like you’re drowning and you’re overwhelmed - why not reach out to someone who can help?

And instead of assuming they’d think you’re a burden…

Remember that it’s an opportunity for connection.

If it makes sense for you, I have a structured productivity systems course + community where you can ask a group of supportive people for help. You’ll feel less alone and know exactly where to start 🫶

Enrollment closes on Sunday - it’s the last cohort this year 🥺

Til next time,

Jennifer

P.S. if you’ve already enrolled or if you’re a course alum, I’m adding live calls to this cohort for extra accountability! Would love to see you there 🫶 Will send email updates next week.