Today I had someone tell me my writing was like LinkedIn AI slop 😅 

Feels kinda weird when I spent 40 min writing every sentence myself.

It got me thinking…

Comments like these wouldn’t matter to me usually.

Like if someone told you “your hair colour sucks” when you’re not really insecure about your hair…

You wouldn’t think too much of it - it’s more of a reflection of their perception than of who you are.

But when it’s something you’re insecure about, like:

• Your content (“why aren’t my posts getting views?”)

• Your weight

• Your personality (being “too much” or “never enough”)

Then of course you’re going to be a bit bothered by it.

Sometimes, you might be so bothered that you change yourself.

Once, when I had less than 300 followers on Instagram,

Someone sent me my own post 💀😭💔

They said something like “look at you trying to be an influencer” 😅

Imagine if I had quit making videos right there.

Then you wouldn’t be here reading these words.

It reminded me of a common theme I observed from students in my course.

Many of us keep ourselves stuck.

I hear things like:

• “I can’t start a business yet because I don’t know enough”

• “It’s too scary to go to the gym, I’m not good at it”

• “I don’t have time for my goals”

But then after 4 weeks, these things happen:

What changed?

Be more curious than critical

This was the biggest transformation I saw in my students.

In week 1 of the course, we go through an exercise - the 5 whys analysis.

I basically get you to ask yourself “why” 5 times to get to the root cause of a problem.

A lot of people were very harsh to themselves in this process.

They said things like “I’m a lazy person” or “I’m just not talented enough.”

But throughout the course, you’re kinda forced to take action that contradicts those beliefs.

When you implement a weekly system to reflect on your accomplishments and learnings,

You quickly gather evidence that your criticism of yourself just isn’t true.

And even if it feels true, you get to ask yourself questions to improve instead of staying stuck in “failure.”

So what did I think of my “sloppy writing?”

Initially, I was upset.

“They don’t know how much effort I put into writing!” I’d huff. “They just don’t get it. No one understands the work I put in!”

But then…

Because I spent every day this year reflecting on my wins + ways to improve

(Because every “failure” is just a learning opportunity to improve),

My brain immediately jumped to the next step of my reflection process (the habit I built up over the years).

“What can I learn from this?”

Acting from this place of curiosity made me feel more fulfilled and ready to take action,

Instead of beating myself up and feeling discouraged.

It was the same when my “friend” sent me my own post.

Instead of thinking “omg I’m so cringe I don’t wanna post anymore, no one looks at my content anyway,”

I thought “lol thanks for boosting the post by sharing it…it’s nice that people can see what my goals are very clearly because then I’m on the right track. So my friend kinda just helped me, in a way.”

Maybe it’s delusion.

But it’s gotten me to where I am.

If this resonates, I’d love to see you in the life tracking course (enroll before Sunday, Nov 30!).

But even if you don’t join, I’m always happy to hear from you - whether the feedback is positive or negative 🫶

(By the way, my answer to “what can I learn from this?” was that I wanna try writing more emotionally impactful stories from the heart - rather than surface-level stories that maybe don’t have the same impact.)

Til next time,

Jennifer

P.S. if you’ve already enrolled or if you’re a course alum, I’m adding live calls to this cohort! Would love to see you there 🫶 Will send email updates next week.