People often wonder how I can stay so consistent with my habits.

“She must be super disciplined,” I hear in my comments all the time.

But I never felt disciplined…I felt like I’m also a lazy person who sometimes gets too distracted doomscrolling.

After going through my months of journal reflections, I think I figured out why I can stay so consistent - the “lazy” way.

Today’s sponsor is MYSELF 🤩 

I’ll be launching something super exciting soon - stay tuned next week! I know it will change lives 🫶 and it’ll be priced more affordably than my course (probably $49).

This mini-course / challenge will be something that I wish I had years ago, so I’d stop wasting time feeling overwhelmed and guilty. The last few months I’ve been posting less because I feel like I unsubscribed from the grindset mindset and am just enjoying my random sidequests without having to worry too much about being productive.

Can’t wait to share it with you soon!!

3 misconceptions about consistency

You might think:

1. Being lazy is bad

2. It’s your fault if you can’t stay consistent

3. You have too much on your to do list

I thought so too.

I’d beat myself up every time I procrastinated boring admin work - because I should’ve gotten my life together and just done the work ages ago.

But I started to realize…what if the issue isn’t just me?

There’s something else happening.

Myth 1: being lazy is bad

The first thing I realized when I started tracking my life was that I saw evidence that my “lazy” habits weren’t necessarily bad.

There were so many times when I procrastinated something, only to realize that it was really just my body telling me something was off.

If I kept putting off something I claimed to care about, either:

• I didn’t actually care about it that much, it’s not aligned with my values, or

• There’s something else blocking me from taking action

Usually, the blocker is me actively self-sabotaging without realizing it,

Telling myself things like:

• I can’t do this

• I’m not good enough

• I’m lazy/undisciplined

So when I feel tempted to label myself as “bad” or “lazy” - I take a moment to dig deeper into where these negative feelings are coming from,

And whether this line of thinking is helping me or harming me.

Myth 2: it’s your fault if you can’t stay consistent

Last year, I had an experience that changed how I think about consistency.

It led to me running around my living room in PJs.

Basically, I used to look at people who run every day as if they were superhuman athletes - something I didn’t think I was.

Having the mental fortitude to go out and run in the cold rain is something I was way too scared / lazy to do.

So when I had a marathon training plan that told me to run daily…

I knew I wouldn’t be able to stay consistent.

But a running coach (who connected with me via Instagram!) told me:

“You can run inside your house.”

That shifted everything for me…it’s probably the same feeling my students got when I told them they could journal just point form notes or 1 sentence, instead of writing an entire entry.

Part of building better systems to stay consistent means you need to know yourself:

What do you enjoy?

What do you find easy?

What will get you to take action - something that’s impossible to say no to?

Myth 3: you have too much on your to do list

Usually, this isn’t a task overload problem.

This is a boundaries problem.

I used to say yes to everything because I got too excited and wanted to help everyone.

But after almost burning out, I realized it wasn’t sustainable - for other people and for myself.

Can’t pour from an empty cup, after all.

So I developed multiple systems I knew would work for me:

• Default no

• Task prioritization (similar to ICE scoring)

• Facing my fears (trying to get people to reject me)

• Dealing with my people pleasing traits

(You can tell I’ve been reading Disease to Please lol. Ending my people pleasing era this year fr)

What does this mean for you?

This is exactly what my upcoming reset challenge will address.

But dw, I know how ADHD brains work (especially mine).

The challenge will be gamified + have social accountability elements so you stay consistent.

It’ll be hard not to stay consistent.

I’ll share more next week!

But in the meantime, I’ll leave you with this:

What’s 1 way you can make your current habits easier and more fun for you?

Ex) instead of “exercise for 45 min daily” it’s “put on workout hype playlist”

Ex) instead of “grow 10k followers” it’s “film at least 1 second every day”

Ex) instead of “get a partner” it’s “read 1 sentence of a relationship book”

Til next time,

Jennifer

P.S. If you have a specific problem you’re struggling with, hit reply! I’m still making the reset challenge so your questions will help me figure out how to create the most helpful resource for you 🫶